If
 your boyfriend’s first reaction is to politely ask you not to wear that
 dress, or maybe add a cardigan because it makes him feel uncomfortable,
 then that’s one thing. But if he yells and makes you feel bad about 
yourself for it, he’s probably not the one.
To
 state the obvious, there are a lot of guys out there. Many of them are 
wonderful and will treat you well — and many just won’t. I have heard 
people say that there are signs right at the beginning of a relationship
 that can indicate whether or not it will last. Well, here are some of 
the signs I, or people I know, have seen and flat out ignored, only to 
have our hearts broken months (or even years) later. If you’re the 
romantic type or looking for something a little more serious these days,
 then this list is for you.
1. The one who didn’t celebrate your birthday with you.
1. The one who didn’t celebrate your birthday with you.
Whether
 you had a small get-together at a bar with a few of your friends or you
 sat at home watching ’80s movies, the guy you’re dating should have 
been there. Unless you’re long-distance, you neglected to invite him or 
your boyfriend is out of town, there are very few excuses that will fly 
if this happens. If someone really likes you, he wouldn’t want you to 
celebrate a holiday without him. Whether it’s your birthday, an 
anniversary or Valentine’s Day, he should want to be there with you. 
It’s true that some people don’t make a big deal over holidays, but if 
you do, the guy in your life should try to make it extra special for you
 — not give you a case of the Molly Ringwald’s.
2. The one who says, “We can’t be together, right now.”
2. The one who says, “We can’t be together, right now.”
You’ve
 been there, I’ve been there, our grandmothers had probably been there. 
You meet a guy who seems amazing. You can’t believe how much the two of 
you have in common, how comfortable and natural it feels to be around 
this person. You probably never or hardly ever fight because it doesn’t 
feel like there’s something to argue about. After a while of dating, 
right around the time where you decide you could really see a future 
with this guy, he drops the bomb on you. He says something along the 
lines of, “I am still getting over my ex.” Or maybe he’s focusing on his
 job or education and he asks you to just be patient. Well, a few more 
months go by and you begin to feel like nothing more than a glorified 
booty call. Sure, you never fight, but it’s probably because he never 
opens up enough for you to see a side of him that would upset you. You 
get fed up and finally tell him it’s time the two of you went your 
separate ways, and he maturely understands. A month or two goes by, and 
out of the blue he’s calling asking you to hang out. The cycle begins 
again.
3. The one who is insanely jealous.
3. The one who is insanely jealous.
Scenari:
 You bought a new dress for your first girl’s night out in weeks, and 
suffice it to say, it shows more than a little décolletage. If your 
boyfriend’s first reaction is to politely ask you not to wear that 
dress, or maybe add a cardigan because it makes him feel uncomfortable, 
then that’s one thing. But if he yells and makes you feel bad about 
yourself for it, he’s probably not the one. Especially if he starts to 
call you names and accuses you of cheating. It’s important to know the 
difference between the two. While you can argue that no one should ever 
tell you what to do, if the guy in your life genuinely feels 
uncomfortable, you should at least take the time to hear him out. But if
 he’s ordering you around and makes you feel scared or threatened, it’s 
time to kick him to the curb.
4. The one who never takes you out on a real date.
4. The one who never takes you out on a real date.
It’s
 not about the money, you would be happy with a simple walk in the park.
 Anything to just breathe some fresh air! This is the guy who always 
invites you over to his place to “hang out.” The guy who doesn’t make an
 effort to come over to your place to see you or pick you up for a date 
or even takes you to the movies. Not even one he wants to see. The two 
of you spend all of your time at his place, and you start to 
deliberately save text messages from him just to prove to your friends 
that you didn’t make him up.
5.The one who’s significantly older than you and refuses to spend time with your friends or family, but has the same taste in music as you and would be a really great boyfriend is he’d just stop drinking, finish college and go on that job interview his Uncle set him up with six months ago.
I don’t think I need to explain this one.
6. The one who is a jerk to everyone, except you.
6. The one who is a jerk to everyone, except you.
Okay,
 I should clarify. I feel this only applies if you have just started 
dating the person, not if you are already in a relationship. You know 
who I mean, right? He’s the guy you’ve just met who everybody tells you 
is bad news. The one who doesn’t seem to have any close friendships, has
 countless exes and is constantly putting people down. Everyone except 
you, that is.
This
 can make you feel special or even feel like you have a bond with the 
person, but in some cases the guy will drop you after he gets bored with
 the nice guy routine and find a new girl to prey on. Then you will end 
up joining the crew of people saying what a jerk he is.
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