5 Sure Ways To Make Women Want And Love You

Getting women to fall for you is not as hard as it may seem. Making women feel a deep attraction to you doesn’t require expensive gifts, extravagant gestures or rock hard abs.

In fact, all it really requires is a little charm and a few good manners. Mastering the following 5 qualities will set you on your way to becoming the man women will be fighting for.

1. Present yourself as the ideal man
One of the worst mistakes a man can make is being insecure, desperate and intimidated-constantly seeking a woman’s approval. Women want the ideal man who is confident, self-sufficient and respectable. When you display these traits, along with maintaining strong eye contact, good posture and slow body gestures and movements, most women will take notice of you.

2. Learn to dress smarter
The first impression matters a lot and how you dress is a big part of the impression you create. Just like women use make-up to appear prettier than they really are, men can improve their appearance through their style of dress. Keeping yourself up and adapting a style that suits you sends the message that you know how to dress, you’re unique, interesting, mature and successful. Most women love clean, well-groomed and stylishly dressed men because it shows that you are organized and can take care of yourself.

3. Make friends with women
Keeping friendships with women is one of the best strategies for consistently meeting women. In fact, making female friends can lead to you being introduced to lots of available women and will help you get over any anxiety you may have of approaching women. Women will more often talk to men who are with other women, so by keep these friendships intact, you’ll make HUGE headway in becoming the high-status guy women can’t get enough of.

4. Give them genuine compliments
Learning to fulfill a woman’s craving for compliments will definitely set you apart from other men; however, most men mess it up and end up sitting alone at the bar. To compliment women the right way, the most important thing to remember is not what you say, but how you say it. Focus on the their values and what they deem important. Give compliments with a confident voice tone and a smile on your face and never underestimate the importance of eye contact.

5. Let them chase you
Quickly pursuing attractive women can often cause them to run away from you. Instead, stop chasing women and make them pursue you. Doing this will set you up as a challenge in their minds and cause them to be MORE LIKELY to want to be with you in a romantic way.

13 ways to step up your life in the year 2013

Years seem to fly by faster than the speed of light.  This year was no exception, since we’re probably still getting accustomed to 2011 (let alone 2012).  But as the years come to an end, we are usually reminded that the following year presents a host of new possibilities.   At Your Black World, our team is committed to celebrating the diversity that is black America, while simultaneously seeking a better, stronger collective reality.

So, in order to commemorate the start of 2013, the YBW team came up with a list of 13 things that black people should do in 2013:

1) Find a way to own something:  Ownership is the key to financial prosperity.   Don’t spend your life waiting for a paycheck. Find a way to be the person who writes paychecks for other people.

2) Learn something new:  You should never stop growing and learning, no matter what your age.  The Internet is the greatest university in the history of the world and provides a tremendous opportunity for you to become an expert at anything.

3) Find a reason to stop drinking or using drugs:  Drugs and alcohol are among the primary causes for most tragedies and addictions.  Free yourself from the poison that has kept our people oppressed for hundreds of years.

4) Eat something healthy:  Grandma’s soul food might taste good, but that could also be the reason that grandma had a heart attack last year.  Try to avoid fatty, sugary, greasy foods and try fruits and vegetables instead.

5) Go to the gym:  We don’t care if you just got your hair done.  You still need to exercise so that your hair isn’t being done by your mortician.

6) Stand up for something:  Become politically engaged and active in the world.  There is a lot going on that concerns you, and you can’t sit on the sidelines.   Get politicians elected and then protest them to make them do their jobs.  Join a community group.  Mentor a child.  Do something to improve your community.

7) Kill the violence:  Too many black children are dying every year.  If we don’t care, then no one will.  Even if you don’t participate in the violence, take the time to speak on the violence and try to aim for violence reductions in your own community.  We can solve this problem by working together.

9) Stand up for our children:  Mentor a child today and let them know that somebody loves them.  Love is enough to move mountains when it comes to saving a child.  He/she might be the next Barack Obama.

10) Venture out of your comfort zone:  Consider traveling the world, learning a language or starting your own business.  This is your year to be great, so don’t let it pass you by.

11) Go to the doctor a get a check up: We can all be more health conscious and visiting the doctor is a great place  to start.  Don’t live in denial.

12) Get educated about your history:   Black people are more than just former slaves.   We have a very rich history that was probably not taught to you in school.

13) Love yourself and forgive someone:  Most of us have something about ourselves that is less than perfect.  We also have people in our lives or our past who’ve hurt us.  There is nothing more powerful than forgiveness, and today is the right day for you to give it a try.  It’ s not hard to forgive; you simply DO IT.

10 Signs She's Flirting With You

When a woman is flirting with a guy, she's trying to get him to notice her and giving him an opportunity to make the first move.

The problem with this female strategy is that a lot of guys are completely oblivious to it and, consequently, throw away a lot of chances to hook up. The following are 10 of the most obvious signals women emit when they want you.

Keep in mind, however, that lots of women are open and friendly to everyone, so spotting just one of these signs might not necessarily be enough to determine her interest. But if a lot of these signals are coming your way, it's a pretty safe bet that you could score a date.

1. She smiles at you
When a woman has an interest in you, her smile can hold your attention from across a crowded room and it is definitely one of the major signs she's flirting. Good looking woman have to work everyday to fend off guys they don’t like, so if she is smiling at you from across the room, this means that she wants you to talk to her. Engage in her flirting by returning the smile.

2. She plays with her hair
If she is attracted to you, she may twirl her hair in her fingers or let it cascade in front of one eye, use her fingers to brush her hair away from her face or lift her hair off the back of her neck as if she is hot while looking at you. If you say hello and she’s performing any of these behaviors, well, all signals say: Keep chatting.

3. She makes direct eye contact with you
One of the most obvious signs a woman flirting with you is when she continuously looks right at you and maintains prolonged eye contact. If the eye contact is for longer than normal duration and she scans you up and down, keeping her eyes locked on you while she talks or drinks, she’s already made up her mind that she likes what she sees.

4. She isolates herself from her friends
Women know that men might find it difficult to talk with them while they're in a group, so if she distances herself from her wall of friends and stands alone, looking at or gazing at you, then it is a sign that she is providing an avenue for you to initiate a conversation.

5. She attempts to catch your attention
If a woman glances and smiles at you while walking by you and in the process takes a longer route to get to the restroom, then it may be that she wants you to notice her. By walking past you repeatedly, out of her way, she’s giving you a sense that she wants your attention.

6. She enters your body space
When a woman enters your personal space, "accidentally" bumping into you with a glance and a smile or maneuvering to stand close to you at a club or at work, she’s inviting a response and trying to become more intimate with you. Closeness is intimacy for a woman, and the closer she allows herself to get to you, the more attracted she is to you.

7. She initiates conversation with you
If she comes over to talk to you, she wants to know what you’re all about. She will seem really into your conversation, turning her body toward you, tilting her head up at you and listening to you intently. She'll convey her interest by asking you open-ended questions, attempt to determine if you are single, dig for personal information and catalog your interests so that she can mimic your likes and dislikes in order to bond with you.

8. She draws attention to her mouth and lips
A Woman's lips can be extremely seductive and there is a tremendous amount of flirtatious energy tied up in them. Some of the most effective signs she's flirting will have her applying lip gloss or running her finger across her lip.

9. She compliments you

A woman who is flirting with you will tell you flat out that she thinks you are cute, compliment your clothes, hair or something that you mentioned in conversation. If you receive a compliment and she seems really into you, she's definitely hoping you will ask her out. If you are interested in her as well, don't forget to compliment her, otherwise she may think you are self-centered
 

10. She touches you
A flirting woman will make an excuse to touch you, if only briefly. She might reach out and lightly touch your shoulder, forearm, hand or wrist during a conversation or put her hand on your knee while making a point. If she gives you any lingering touches and doesn’t immediately remove her hand, you know you've got a live one.

5 ways to impress your woman in bed

Being able to decipher the fine line between moans of pleasures or groaning with discomfort is vital.

This is one question to which every guy seems to have an answer and yet, most men find themselves lost, trying to figure out why their woman didn’t react as enthusiastically they had imagined.The problem lies in men perceiving séx in a very typical, miniscule way. While many try to ape maneuvers preached in prohibited content accessible on the web, the more intellectual types turn to books and weird yogic postures. Somehow, people forget that most problems have a rather simple solution, i.e. in doing the basics right. This article tries to decode what can be done to impress your girl in bed  without trying something extreme or ridiculous.

Fool Around, Mix-up & Experiment with Foreplay

Most women like to be teased before actually committing to the act of séx. You can understand it as a kind of comprehensive foreplay which includes everything from kissing her slightly, giving her those typical lewd looks, passing comments about the size of her breasts or her shapely outline.

Anything that can physically or psychologically stimulate her is good enough. This form of foreplay extends even when initiating séx. The idea should be to prolong the foreplay before doing it, getting her excited to the maximum.

This includes something as simple as whispering your wildest fantasies in her ears, breathing heavily and licking the insides of her ears and cupping the insides of her thighs as you verbally detail your intentions of munching upon every part of her chocolaty body.

Try to Listen to Her Body

An inherent part of being good in bed is to being able to decipher what she wants. If you cannot decode what is making her uncomfortable or what turns her on, impressing your girl in the bed could be a major challenge. For this, you need to become a lot more perceptive.

Being able to decipher the fine line between moans of pleasures or groaning with discomfort is vital. For instance, using the fingers to pleasure a girl is common. However, some women might not react encouragingly to this. Basically, you need to back down from what becomes more painful rather than pleasurable.

Initiate Séx when Least Expects to Impress Her in Bed

Initiating séx in typical environments like your bedroom or getting it on during the same time slots can make séx predictable. You need to understand that the surroundings or situations in which you make love have a lot to do to the degree she can be turned-on.

For instance, you might be planning to impress her in the bed tonight, but rather than initiating the foreplay after reaching home, get started prematurely. When she is about to leave office, you can SMS provocative messages to her. When she is seated in the car, caress her thighs, every time you make a stop at the traffic light.

You can also change the backdrop for getting intimate. Try to initiate séx at the most unexpected moments. For instance, during early mornings, start cozying up to her, rubbing her back or caressing her breasts while she is still asleep. For many women, this combination of sleepy haze and being caressed by their men is an instant, erotic high.

Make Her Feel Desired like a Séxual Goddess

Many women get disappointed since men make séx dependent upon some fixed parameters. For instance, having your girl naked, within the confines of your locked room might be the rules that you have unintentionally established. However, you can seriously impress your girl in bed, if you are ready to think out of the box.

For example, ask her to cook wearing the tiniest of lingerie gowns. Make her do teeny-weeny bits of housework wearing something that hardly covers her. She should feel your gaze on her body. By the time you catch hold of her and head to the bedroom, she would be clawing the clothes off your body. This is a perfect example of how séxuality is primarily in our minds. If your girl is convinced that you just cannot get enough of her, she will never be disappointed in the bed.

Tease Her Shamelessly Before Bedding Her

Yes, some people regard teasing as an inherent part of foreplay. Some examples of the same have been listed above too. However, where stimulating foreplay ends, unashamed séxual teasing begins. There are many ways do this. Ideally, this should be done when you haven’t indicated to her about your intentions of having séx.

For instance, you guys are in the lift, headed to an office party and she is wearing a graceful saree or any dress that slightly exposes her mid-riff. Slither your hands all over her bare waist, clenching her flesh with your fingers. When at the party, distance yourself from her. Start texting her about the different men who are staring at her. Be very detailed in what part of her they are staring at and why. By the time you guys are headed back, she would be more eager than you to get it on in the bed. Here, you have guaranteed that you will impress her in bed by blatantly arousing her.

10 best ways to surprise your girl

Sit with her and recall the day when you had gone on your first date, celebrated your first Valentine’s Day and had to lie to someone to meet each other.

Any ‘love guru’ would tell you that the best way to win over your girl is to keep surprising her. The moment you see those widened eyes full of joy, you know only good things are in store for you. The surprises, however, do not have to be lavish or extravagant. As goes the cliché, it’s the little things that count. So, read on to know 10 ways to surprise her:

1. Bang! Show-up at her Workplace

That’s a surprise as good as any. The hectic proceedings of the day have started to get to her, and you landing out of nowhere will definitely cheer her up. Take her to lunch or go for a long drive.

2. A Prem Patra

Well, in this SMS age, a love letter will work in a way it didn’t even in the movies of the 50s. And you don’t have to wait for Valentine’s Day to pen down your feelings. Love letters heighten romance like nothing else does.

3. Trin Trin, I Love You

This counts among the most workable ways when it comes to catching her off-guard, however, if done monotonously and saying ‘I love you’ in those routine ceremonies you exchange every day, the best it would do is not induce a yawn in her.

4. Dedicate a Song to Her on Radio

Again, this is something that seems too outdated to do, and probably that is why it would work. If the song happens to be one of her favourites that she hasn’t heard in a long time, it might just become your love song.

5. Go Shopping

This should be a no-brainer. The word shopping has bewitching effects on women, to say the least. And unlike other days when you make faces hearing this word, actually sounding enthusiastic about it would sure cause some pleasant amazement.

6. Make Her Breakfast in Bed

What better start to her day than you cooking her breakfast and bringing it to her in bed. Some flowers accompanying the food tray will further the pleasant quotient in the surprise a few notches higher.

7. Compliments

Yes, they do come as a surprise when she is not so used to them coming from you often. All it has to be is one line. A simple ‘I wish I’d met you sooner’ or ‘Do you know how much I love your smile?’ would go a long way in gladdening her heart. So just let the words out.

8. Nostalgia

This works with anybody and everybody. Sit with her and recall the day when you had gone on your first date, celebrated your first Valentine’s Day and had to lie to someone to meet each other.

9. New Tricks in Bed

This one is for some naughty niceness. A surprise in bed may work as good as a surprise elsewhere. Role-playing, new positions or a different place to make out add spice and surprise.

10. Will You Marry Me?

This is for the ones who are still waiting to pop the question. Elation is what you are going to see on her face as soon as you utter these magical four words.

Keeping the romance alive is not so difficult when you keep the excitement on in a relationship. The element of surprise is essential to keep the flame lit always!

Man Impregnates Mother-In-Law As Wife Attends Church Conference

A man allegedly impregnated his mother-in-law, only known as Mavhuto, amid claims that she seduced him. 

Fungai Mukwena was left with his mother-in-law Gladys Mavhuto in July this year when his wife Ellen went for a one-week church conference in Gokwe. 

The Mukwenas are members of Zion Christian Church (ZCC) but Fungai could not attend the Gokwe conference because of work commitments. Ellen asked her mother to remain behind looking after the couple’s two children aged two and four. 

Ellen told B-Metro that her mother was five months heavy with her husband’s seed. 

“I am distressed. I don’t know how to handle this matter but I have already reported to church authorities.” 

ZCC officials were not reachable for a comment. 

Ellen added: “I wedded my husband five years ago without issue. Since March my mother would come to spend some time with us getting medical attention as she always complained of pains on her knees. We then asked her to remain behind while I went for a church conference. 

“When I came back my husband told me lightheartedly that my mother’s cooking was more delicious than mine. I did not suspect anything bad. I believed my husband, moreover the woman in question is my mother and not a rival. During the last week of November, my mother came back and I noticed that her tummy was bulging. When I enquired to know if she was pregnant, she admitted. She further told me that her boyfriend in the village had impregnated her. It later emerged that my father had chased her away from our rural homestead for adultery,” she said. 

Ellen told her mother to look for alternative accommodation but she threatened to blackmail her. 

“My husband also pleaded with me to let her stay,.” 

Back home, Ellen’s father got wind that his estranged wife was at their daughter’s place and reportedly phoned and shouted at her daughter. Her father’s reaction prompted her to throw her mother out. 

She, however, made the startling revelation in a bid to thwart the ouster. On the other hand, Fungai claimed his mother-in-law seduced him by staying naked in the house knowing that she was not alone. 

“I would come from work and find her bathing without closing the bathroom door. At first it was embarrassing to me but I later discovered that her actions were an open invitation. I regret it though,” he said. The mother in-law refused to comment.

6 kind of guys you should NOT stay with

If your boyfriend’s first reaction is to politely ask you not to wear that dress, or maybe add a cardigan because it makes him feel uncomfortable, then that’s one thing. But if he yells and makes you feel bad about yourself for it, he’s probably not the one.

To state the obvious, there are a lot of guys out there. Many of them are wonderful and will treat you well — and many just won’t. I have heard people say that there are signs right at the beginning of a relationship that can indicate whether or not it will last. Well, here are some of the signs I, or people I know, have seen and flat out ignored, only to have our hearts broken months (or even years) later. If you’re the romantic type or looking for something a little more serious these days, then this list is for you.
1. The one who didn’t celebrate your birthday with you.

Whether you had a small get-together at a bar with a few of your friends or you sat at home watching ’80s movies, the guy you’re dating should have been there. Unless you’re long-distance, you neglected to invite him or your boyfriend is out of town, there are very few excuses that will fly if this happens. If someone really likes you, he wouldn’t want you to celebrate a holiday without him. Whether it’s your birthday, an anniversary or Valentine’s Day, he should want to be there with you. It’s true that some people don’t make a big deal over holidays, but if you do, the guy in your life should try to make it extra special for you — not give you a case of the Molly Ringwald’s.
2. The one who says, “We can’t be together, right now.”

You’ve been there, I’ve been there, our grandmothers had probably been there. You meet a guy who seems amazing. You can’t believe how much the two of you have in common, how comfortable and natural it feels to be around this person. You probably never or hardly ever fight because it doesn’t feel like there’s something to argue about. After a while of dating, right around the time where you decide you could really see a future with this guy, he drops the bomb on you. He says something along the lines of, “I am still getting over my ex.” Or maybe he’s focusing on his job or education and he asks you to just be patient. Well, a few more months go by and you begin to feel like nothing more than a glorified booty call. Sure, you never fight, but it’s probably because he never opens up enough for you to see a side of him that would upset you. You get fed up and finally tell him it’s time the two of you went your separate ways, and he maturely understands. A month or two goes by, and out of the blue he’s calling asking you to hang out. The cycle begins again.
3. The one who is insanely jealous.

Scenari: You bought a new dress for your first girl’s night out in weeks, and suffice it to say, it shows more than a little décolletage. If your boyfriend’s first reaction is to politely ask you not to wear that dress, or maybe add a cardigan because it makes him feel uncomfortable, then that’s one thing. But if he yells and makes you feel bad about yourself for it, he’s probably not the one. Especially if he starts to call you names and accuses you of cheating. It’s important to know the difference between the two. While you can argue that no one should ever tell you what to do, if the guy in your life genuinely feels uncomfortable, you should at least take the time to hear him out. But if he’s ordering you around and makes you feel scared or threatened, it’s time to kick him to the curb.
4. The one who never takes you out on a real date.

It’s not about the money, you would be happy with a simple walk in the park. Anything to just breathe some fresh air! This is the guy who always invites you over to his place to “hang out.” The guy who doesn’t make an effort to come over to your place to see you or pick you up for a date or even takes you to the movies. Not even one he wants to see. The two of you spend all of your time at his place, and you start to deliberately save text messages from him just to prove to your friends that you didn’t make him up.

5.The one who’s significantly older than you and refuses to spend time with your friends or family, but has the same taste in music as you and would be a really great boyfriend is he’d just stop drinking, finish college and go on that job interview his Uncle set him up with six months ago.

I don’t think I need to explain this one.
6. The one who is a jerk to everyone, except you.

Okay, I should clarify. I feel this only applies if you have just started dating the person, not if you are already in a relationship. You know who I mean, right? He’s the guy you’ve just met who everybody tells you is bad news. The one who doesn’t seem to have any close friendships, has countless exes and is constantly putting people down. Everyone except you, that is.

This can make you feel special or even feel like you have a bond with the person, but in some cases the guy will drop you after he gets bored with the nice guy routine and find a new girl to prey on. Then you will end up joining the crew of people saying what a jerk he is.